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Четох в една статия някакво изследване (sorry, че съм така конкретна, ама наистина не си спомням къде 
), че дългото кърмене (след годинка), превръщало децата в прекалено зависими от майките и ги правило по-неприспособими към околния свят... Това, според мен, ако е вярно, е още една от причините да не се прекалява...
), че дългото кърмене (след годинка), превръщало децата в прекалено зависими от майките и ги правило по-неприспособими към околния свят... Това, според мен, ако е вярно, е още една от причините да не се прекалява...А аз съм чела в много статии
, че кърменето на по-голямо дете и естественото отбиване му помагат да израстне по-независимо, понеже като удовлетворяваш нуждата му от кърмене и го оставиш естествено да я израстне, детето се развива по-уверено и свободно да изследва "шарения" свят". Ради, например, е много уверено и будно дете. На сестрите в яслите им беше направило впечатление, колко уверен и сигурен е в мненията си. (Спомням си един случай отдавна.Имамли занимание, на което им показват банан и питат "Даца, какво е това?". Едно казва "Круша" и всички след него "Круша, круша", а Ради :"Не е круша, бе, банан е" и други такива). Малката дъщеря на сестра ми, също е много независимо и самостоятелно дете. Реши да ходи на училище на 4 години ( и всъщност ходи)
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But I want my baby to become independent.
And breastfeeding makes the toddler dependent? Don’t believe it. The child who breastfeeds until he weans himself (usually from 2 to 4 years), is generally more independent, and, perhaps more importantly, more secure in his independence. He has received comfort and security from the breast, until he is ready to make the step himself to stop. And when he makes that step himself, he knows he has achieved something, he knows he has moved ahead. It is a milestone in his life.
Often we push children to become "independent" too quickly. To sleep alone too soon, to wean from the breast too soon, to do without their parents too soon, to do everything too soon. Don’t push and the child will become independent soon enough. What’s the rush? Soon they will be leaving home. You want them to leave home at 14?
And breastfeeding makes the toddler dependent? Don’t believe it. The child who breastfeeds until he weans himself (usually from 2 to 4 years), is generally more independent, and, perhaps more importantly, more secure in his independence. He has received comfort and security from the breast, until he is ready to make the step himself to stop. And when he makes that step himself, he knows he has achieved something, he knows he has moved ahead. It is a milestone in his life.
Often we push children to become "independent" too quickly. To sleep alone too soon, to wean from the breast too soon, to do without their parents too soon, to do everything too soon. Don’t push and the child will become independent soon enough. What’s the rush? Soon they will be leaving home. You want them to leave home at 14?
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Breastfeeding favors the formation of the affective bond that allows the child to develop a self- confident and independent personality.
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Extended Breastfeeding Fosters Independence
"The independent child is the one who has been held close when that was what he needed."
Norma Jane Bumgarner Mothering Your Nursing Toddler, p. 38.
Independence should not be defined according to when a child weans from the breast, sleeps alone or leaves diapers behind. An independent child is one who has her dependency needs fulfilled, then separates gradually on her own terms to become a child who feels right and confident in the world. As one noted pediatrician points out:
"Contrary to the popular belief that extended attachment hinders independence, we notice that babies who are not prematurely rushed through any attachment stage and weaned before their time actually become more independent."
William Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, R.N. The Discipline Book, p. 55.
"The independent child is the one who has been held close when that was what he needed."
Norma Jane Bumgarner Mothering Your Nursing Toddler, p. 38.
Independence should not be defined according to when a child weans from the breast, sleeps alone or leaves diapers behind. An independent child is one who has her dependency needs fulfilled, then separates gradually on her own terms to become a child who feels right and confident in the world. As one noted pediatrician points out:
"Contrary to the popular belief that extended attachment hinders independence, we notice that babies who are not prematurely rushed through any attachment stage and weaned before their time actually become more independent."
William Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, R.N. The Discipline Book, p. 55.
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Psychological Considerations: While nursing an infant no doubt provides a sense of closeness and comfort, breastfeeding a toddler encourages that bond between mother and child to continue. According to La Leche League International (LLL), “breastfeeding a toddler helps with the child’s ability to grow up. Although some experts say a toddler who is not weaned will have difficulty becoming independent, it’s usually the fearful, clingy kids that have been pushed into situations requiring too much independence too soon. A breastfeeding toddler is having his dependency needs met. The closeness and availability of the mother through breastfeeding is one of the best ways to help toddlers grow emotionally.”
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